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Thoughts of a Reformed Fixer
by Sandy M. HumphreyI used to freely give advice
In my opinion words of wisdom would flow
When others I cared for were headed for trouble
I automatically would go into rescue mode
No thought did I give if my help would be welcome
For another might not see themselves in need of a fix
Most issues are perspective and I am no expert
But still I did not fail to get into the mix
In the past I have exhausted all resources
Financially, physically and become emotionally void
To come to the aide of someone I deemed in need of
Only to fail or see all my efforts ignored
As a co-dependent I have now sought counsel
Already I have learned it to is a process of recovery
The journey I am now on is not a selfish one
But truly a quest of self-discovery
Loved ones and friends I do not control
To them I have limited responsibility
Opinions I will offer only when asked
Judgments are out of my ability
I am here to care and to love
Be the best me I know I can be
I will still be here if I am needed
The rescuer has let go, been set free
05/13/2006 Posted on 05/13/2006
Copyright © 2025 Sandy M. Humphrey
| Member Comments on this Poem |
| Posted by Ashok Sharda on 05/14/06 at 02:33 AM Well, we cannot change our external but we can change our approach to life and others and this will initiate the change in our outlook. we shall feel more comfortable. |
| Posted by Chris Sorrenti on 05/14/06 at 07:31 PM Words to live by for all "fixers," past, present, and future. Welcome to Pathetic. Your name sounds familar. Have you been a member here before? :o) |
| Posted by Kristina Woodhill on 06/10/06 at 02:34 PM Yes, most don't want to be fixed by others, which is really pretty freeing for ourselves when you think about it. Well written. |
| Posted by Joan Serratelli on 09/22/06 at 01:48 PM It's hard not to try to help those we love. As a mother of 3 grown daughters, I have learned to "bite my tongue" until it bleeds. My Mantra has become: "If they want my help, they'll ask"...sometimes they actually do! I loved the last stanza. Excellently written and expressed. The last stanza said it all- loud and clear! Thank you for this piece! |
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