PATH TO GENUINE SELF-LOVE

(Reasoning out dummy self-love)

The ancient esoteric teachings called self-love and vanity the fundamental enemies of those who want to genuinely grow. It claimed that self-love and vanity separates us from outside thus prevents all kinds of influences entering us. It is possible to select good influences from bad but influences are necessary for those who want to evolve.

 One can, with active reasoning, liberate oneÂ’s self from self-love and vanity.

Self-love and vanity occupies almost half of our lives and time. If some one has wounded our self-love or vanity, then, not only at that point of time but also for a long time afterwards, the momentum of the hurt, keeps all the doors closed, shutting off our lives from necessary positive influences. For example, one feels offended and shall not calm down and become his normal self for a long time if some body called him a fool, or looked scornfully, or hurt his feelings.

The human machine is so made that we cannot experience different experiences simultaneously. We have one place within for external influences and if we are occupied with injured feelings, we cannot have desirable influences or experiences from the without. Hence we are shut off from the life it self. And as we know from our experiences, once such wounded feeling subsides, another feeling of the same nature erupts since some body might hurt us again since we are so prone to hurts.

Basically, our self-love or vanity is not self- love or vanity in true sense. ItÂ’s absolutely illogical to feel hurt to our disadvantage if we truly and genuinely love our selves. Genuine self-love can never allow us to feel offended.

Some one calls me an Idiot. Is he wise enough to call me an idiot? He may be a fool or mad to call me an idiot. One cannot demand wisdom from a fool or a lunatic. Shall I expect wisdom from such a person?

Supposing I have acted foolishly and some one calls me a fool. should I feel hurt if my aim is not to be a fool? On the contrary is he not reminding me that I have acted foolishly and I donÂ’t want to behave like a fool. I must thank him. I must feel grateful of him. And I must think out how not to act foolishly next time.

One hurts me for no reason. Should I feel offended? On the contrary I should feel sorry for him because he has acted unreasonably foolishly.

One hurts my feelings because he has formed bad opinion about me based on hearsay or others opinion. He is a fool to believe others without knowing for himself. Should I feel offended?

One hurts me and I am wounded. Am I not giving undue importance to a person who doesnÂ’t care for others?  I think we ought to learn to ignore such unreasonable fools. (And well, can there  be reasonable fools. Hahaha)

ItÂ’s a matter of fact that we do not possess true self-love. Self-love is a sign of genuine high opinion about one self and not just projection of greatness. Projections of greatness are compulsorily to hide oneÂ’s own smallness. ItÂ’s easy to differentiate between a genuine self-love and a dummy self-love since genuine self-love is absence among us. Ha! Ha! Ha!

Active reasoning can be learnt by practice. By practice alone.

02/16/2003

Author's Note: I derived a poem, intentionally, from this piece. I have posted the poem under the title-‘ A fool called me a fool, what do I do?

Posted on 02/16/2003
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